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Hope as Poison
Read more: Hope as PoisonHope is just another way of wishing that what is, wasn’t. Or wishing what is now, always will be. I don’t like this thing, so I’m going to hope for something better. Or I do like this, and so I need it to feel permanent and unchangeable. And that wish is where the suffering starts.
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Forgetting Gravity
Read more: Forgetting GravityWalking through our days, we may notice moments – sometimes little, sometimes big – that we feel swept over by emotion. Compelled to react, worry, or shut down. In my practice, I often ask folks, in this activated, emotional space, “How old does it feel?” The confused looks that I receive aren’t surprising. “I don’t…
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Losing the weight
Read more: Losing the weightIt’s a common theme in therapy. “I don’t like my body.” But it isn’t quite that simple, is it? What don’t folks like about their bodies? Sometimes it’s dysphoria, sometimes it’s a chronic illness or disability. Most of the time, though? It’s not that someone doesn’t like their body. It’s that they don’t like how…
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The Loss in Love
Read more: The Loss in LoveIt’s all too easy. We can get so swept up in the daily rigmarole. Working, keeping house, raising families, trying to maintain relationships, our bodies, our minds. We spend countless years worrying about what could happen, if the right things will happen, and turning away from anything resembling pain or loss. We get caught up…
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Are you doing these three things to improve your mind?
Read more: Are you doing these three things to improve your mind?Are you doing these three things to improve your mind?
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I might as well eat worms
Read more: I might as well eat wormsCan we talk about rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD) for ADHD folx? I was reminded of several things recently. First, that rejection sensitivity within ADHD is a powerful force. Second, it is not often spoken about or understood, even by therapists. And Third, there are plenty of ways we can work with the experience to reduce its…
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Willingness for Vulnerability
Read more: Willingness for VulnerabilityShame only holds power when you keep it secret. Letting the air and light in sends the shadows scampering.