Writings – seity

Losing the weight

It’s a common theme in therapy. “I don’t like my body.” But it isn’t quite that simple, is it? What don’t folks like about their bodies? Sometimes it’s dysphoria, sometimes it’s a chronic illness or disability. Most of the time, though? It’s not that someone doesn’t like their body. It’s that they don’t like how…
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The Loss in Love

It’s all too easy. We can get so swept up in the daily rigmarole. Working, keeping house, raising families, trying to maintain relationships, our bodies, our minds. We spend countless years worrying about what could happen, if the right things will happen, and turning away from anything resembling pain or loss. We get caught up…
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Honoring our power

It’s been going on a lot lately. I feel it coursing through my system. I want women (all women) to feel their power. Let’s start by saying this has little to do with cis-men and their power. Yes, patriarchy. But we’re not here to talk about taking power from anyone. We all have power within…
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I Just Want It To Be Over

Just as waves are not separate from the ocean, our experiences are not separate from ourselves. The ocean never fears that the current wave will last forever. The ocean doesn’t try to block out certain waves or believe it is this current wave. They simply arise, move through, and return to the ocean.
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Swirling Minds

There are so many questions – mine, clients, the world. It seems as though we’re walking around our homes and neighborhoods with swirling minds. Wondering. Pondering questions that we may never get answers to. Fearing the answers to others. There are questions about why, how it started, and why we didn’t do things differently. Fears…
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Willingness for Vulnerability

Shame only holds power when you keep it secret. Letting the air and light in sends the shadows scampering.
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Can’t You See These Flaws

Perhaps we’ve had it backward all along. Perhaps it isn’t “once I look this way, I’ll be able to love myself.” Maybe we get further by loving ourselves first, respecting and honoring our bodies, and allowing them to rest in their happy place. Then we think, “I love myself, so I love what my body…
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When You’re Not Quite Enough

Our goal should not be to remove the existence of difficult feelings, but rather to flow with them, acknowledging both their presence and their temporary nature.
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When You Love Your Opposite

Most couples who come to see me don’t come in already having figured out how to relate to one another. Most people come to see me because they trigger each other and are unsure of how to navigate to a healthier place. Working with couples has taught me that there are often two kinds of…
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Our Modern Blended Family – An Intro

I am excited to announce my first book is being released on November 26th! At the beginning of summer I was approached by a publisher asking me to write a book about blending families. I’ve always loved writing, and books have been a long-time dream of mine, so it was an honor to be a…
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